The Quite Unclench, a book of poems, explores the difficult path of self-reclamation.  It deals with the loss of self that the above explanation and the devastating humiliation brought on by unworthy words.  These poems emphasise that mending is an act of strong control and leads you toward acceptance.  Recognise that you are the only one who can build your shield.  Remember that every dark time gives way to your own magnificent brightness if you are asking for permission to finally let go of a heavy load.  Self-discovery is the initial phase of the healing process.